Friday, May 29, 2009

Bullies....

Something that happened last night has been bothering me...

We were at my husband's game and I was on the bleachers watching. Usually my kids will sit with me and LegoQueen will yak in my ear and bug me.
But this happened to be be an early game, so there were a lot of kids out, and one of her teammates happened to be there, so she asked if they could go playon one of the fields behind us.
No problem, I can turn around and watch them if I wanted to, and I told the older girl, "If you lose my daughter, you will be in sooo much trouble." and we laughed and all was well.

Well, near the end of the game the girls all come running up to me (they had grabbed another girl to play with) and Julie (the player I had been joking with) said "Kim you need to call somebody because those girls over there started fighting with your daughter and called her a B****!
Okay, hold on, back up. I turned around and sure enough there was a group of black girls walking away and looking over their shoulders. I had the girls explain to me again, very slowly, what happened. Julie's dad came over and said, " Julie, if she comes back you sure as hell better sock her ass in the mouth."
Ah....not quite the advice I would have given, but their family is a little different from ours, lol.
What happened:
1. The girls were playing with a group of boys, a mini game of baseball.
2. The group of black girls came up and started asking why my daughter was looking at their mom funny (the girls did not see a mom anywhere)
3. When my daughter said she didn't know what they were talking about, one girl called her a b****
4. LQ told her to shut up and go away and naively thought that it was done at that point and turned away to go play
5. The other girl shoved her in the back and told her to bring it.
6. Julie jumps in and tells the girls where to go.
7. The black girls leave as soon as LQ starts running for her mom.

LegoQueen was in quite a state. She was shaking, but it wasn't fear shaking her- it was the rush of adrenaline that comes when you are put in a position where you have to defend yourself.
We sat down for a while after that, and I explained to her that those girls came over looking to fight, and when they called her a name, they expected her to cower in fear and run. But LQ didn't and stood her ground and told them to shut up and go away. Then when she turned her back, the brave coward pushed her and then backed away to see what she would do. That is what bullies do.

And yes, I do keep mentioning the fact that they were BLACK girls. Ghetto black pieces of shit who have nothing better to do that to pick on my very WHITE daughter. That bothers me intensely. I have black neighbors who are good people (the baby I sit for has a black father) so its not like I see a black person and hate them. Its hard to explain. Its a certain type of person whether they are black, brown, asian, or white.

I have to admit, I have a little ghetto in me. If those girls had not been walking away I would be sitting in jail for assault on a minor or something. I would have gone over there and there is no telling how brave they would be at that point. One of Hongo's friends would have to take my case and defend me, lol! But yesterday I had to be a mom first, and be calm and patient to hear the entire story. By that time the girls were long gone over at the basketball courts.

LQ said last night "I'm Mexican, I have Mexican in me!" and Hongo told her "If you were really Mexican, that girl would have a broken nose and some hair missing."
LOL, so true.

I am very thankful that Julie was with her and didn't leave my daughter behind. Last year Julie would torment my daughter every game and every practice. They have grown up a little and I think Julie realizes that LQ is just a regular kid who has her own issues, just like she does. Julie deals with bullying at her school, and the fact that my friend's daughter doesn't like her and tries to steer other people on the team to not like her either. She is a very insulated child, which is so sad for a 13 year old to be like that.

I told LQ that bullying doesn't always occur when you are kids. Adults do it too. I don't think there ever comes a time in your life when it DOESN'T happen. and bullying doesn't always have to be someone trying to pick a fist fight. It can be verbal, emotional, etc.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Update:

We confirmed that DQ has conjuctivitis in both eyes. This am she woke up screaming because her eyes were dried shut. As I was cleaning her eyes I asked her why she HAD to open them at 615. Couldn't she wait until 8 or something? I guess humor is not high on the list that early in the morning. :)
So she got cleaned up and went back to sleep. Now my son is up and moving around, so I guess sleeping for me is over :( maybe I can convince him to play with my phone while I doze....

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

The eyes

We just aren't having a good week. I am currently sitting at Urgent Care with DQ. Both of her eyes swelled up an are now puffy and red with discharge leaking out. I had an appointment for 1st thing tomorrow, but I don't think this can wait. Its moving too fast.

Living on the edge....

When my son grows up and turns 18, he can do stunts and thrill himself to his hearts' content.
However, that is about 12 years away, so until then I must insist that he keep both feet on the ground. No jumping, dangling, crashing, swinging, bumping, hanging, etc.
I swear I can't turn about for a moment without him being into something or doing an activity that gives me a heart attack.
Today he thought it would be great to jump down the past the last 4 stairs. He could have snapped an ankle or broken an arm!!!!
Then after lunch he was running in the house with our dog. Not paying attention to furniture or other obstacles, just watching to make sure the dog was keeping up. I am am obstacle and he nearly took me feet out from under me.
Tomorrow is park day, and I fully expect for him to let me know he is feeling 100 percent better by climbing something.

Okay, okay- I do think its kind of funny how he will stand on the couch and try to jump onto people's backs when they walk past him. He's pretty good at it, and the reaction of his victim is hilarious....

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

No end in sight....

Hongo just called - he is sick too. He wants to come home and share his germs with us :(

I refuse to get sick, I refuse to get sick......

Stomach bug...

Last week DramaQueen threw up. I thought it might have been something she ate, but I still sent a note to my friend whose daughter she had been playing with to let her know.
Then Sunday night my son woke up vomiting. Then Monday Morning DQ did it again. ANd the Hairy One started this morning and has done it 3 times in the past hour.
So I stripped down ALL of the beds yesterday and I have been doing laundry ever since.
I went through and scrubbed all the toilets, all he sinks were cleaned and I mopped the floor. Hongo brought home disinfectant wipes for me to use so I don't have to wash any more rags.
Today I have to shampoo the carpets because they don't always make it to the bathroom in time.

So much for sleeping in!

We are staying in today and probably tomorrow as well.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Wednesday Morning,

Is it Wednesday already? Yup.

Last night's game was so frustrating. We had 3 teams show up to play us, no umpire, and my pitchers did not do well.
We still won 18-12, and so now we are 8-2.
Tonight I am holding practice, and then I will have a special batting practice tomorrow. We also have a game tonight, so I am looking forward to hitting that ball and getting some stress out!

Speaking of stress, my treadmill died yesterday. SO those times when I really need to just walk and get it all out, I can't do that in my house anymore. I do have an elliptical, but I really hate that thing. I am looking to see if I can buy another TM cheaply.

Monday, May 4, 2009

Its already May

and I feel so bad because I was just reading my last entry and it was about the Hairy One's cavity and we still haven't been in to have it fixed. Insurance can be a pain :(

This week is full of softball every single day. Today we had a pee wee game, tomorrow each of the girls have a game, Wednesday we have junior practice and adult coed game, Thursday DQ has her game and then we go to Hongo's double header, Friday we have playoffs and Saturday there will be 4 games back to back to back....

This is about the time where Hongo starts feeling like throwing in the towel and wants his life back. This year I am kind of there with him :(
We do get Sunday off for Mothers' Day :)

Otherwise everything is fine - we have a lot of activities planned for the daytime during the week, and I am still babysitting. He is a pretty good little kid, which is right up my alley. I only have to feed and change him, the kids entertain him and he goes down for his nap like clockwork.

tomorrow will be a fun day, just really busy ;)